Books that "Stand on the Side of Love" (Week Three)

In honor of this month's @Home, each Wednesday in February will feature a children's book that honors all families and celebrates love. 

Just by reading and sharing these stories we are all doing our part to help create a culture that affirms the worth and dignity of all persons AND their families. 

No matter what your family looks like, I hope you will take some time to check out some of these books!

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Week Three

I stumbled upon this week's book in our local library a few months ago and I instantly loved it. 

The author of A Tale of Two Daddies, Vanita Oelschlager, does a wonderful job capturing the genuine curiosity expressed by children when they meet someone who has a family that looks a little different from their own. This charming story features a little boy who wonders about the family of his playground playmate; a little girl who has two dads. 

As the two children play together, the little boy begins to ask a series of questions including, "Which dad helps you when your day begins?/ Who is there to tuck you in?" 

The little girl proudly responds, "Poppa's awake when my day begins. / Both of my daddies tuck me in." 

I love that kids and caretakers can read this story and think about who helps them in their own home and discover that while each family is not exactly the same, love is always there!

"Who is your dad when you're sad and need some love?"

"Both, of course!"

Through it's simple story and beautiful illustrations, this book reminds us that a child's concept of "family" is ultimately formed by what they know and see around them; so surround the children you love with books about the love shared between all families! 

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So, UU@Home-rs, this is where you come in; in addition to providing four of my own favs, I am turning the tables this month and asking each of you to contribute some of your own great resources for all ages! Add your book recommendations below, or check out the UU@Home facebook page and join the discussion board, post pictures, and don't forget to include a link!

Books that "Stand on the Side of Love" (Week Two)

In honor of this month's @Home, each Wednesday in February will feature a children's book that honors all families and celebrates love. 

Just by reading and sharing these stories we are all doing our part to help create a culture that affirms the worth and dignity of all persons AND their families. 

No matter what your family looks like, I hope you will take some time to check out some of these books!

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Week Two

This week's pick was a total no-brainer: And Tango Makes Three is a heart-warming, true story that celebrates the love shared between two male penguins, Roy and Silo, and the beauty of the family they create together after they are given the gift of a fertile egg from another penguin couple. Roy and Silo take turns caring for the egg and, eventually, it hatches, and Tango is born.

This book is a great way to remind children (and adults) that even though Tango's family might look a little different than theirs, that the love shared between Tango and her dads is just as beautiful and valuable as any other family. Plus penguins. Who doesn't love penguins?

While And Tango Makes Three has become a staple in UU Religious Education libraries from coast to coast, this book has still faced a fair amount of controversy. It topped the American Library Association's list of "most challenged books" in 2006, not falling to number two until 2009. 

The calls to ban this book are yet another sad reminder of just how much our society needs the lessons from books such as these and how important it is to fight to keep these stories alive. Hopefully, the generation of children that grows up loving Tango will create a world that truly honors the value and rights of all families. In the meantime, this book continues to play a vital role in putting an end to bullying by teaching us that the love shared between Tango and her dads is not unlike the love in every other family.  

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So, UU@Home-rs, this is where you come in; in addition to providing four of my own favs, I am turning the tables this month and asking each of you to contribute some of your own great resources for all ages! Add your book recommendations below, or check out the UU@Home facebook page and join the discussion board, post pictures, and don't forget to include a link!

Learning Love

I remember so clearly the first time my now three-year-old daughter told me that she loved me. The very image of my toddler expressing her love was enough to melt the heart of even the grumpiest scrooge. You know the scene: glowing eyes, the smile that filled her face, her arms reaching to give the biggest hug her little body could possibly manage. Not that I am biased or anything, but there is not a baby mammal or a hamster in a helmet that could possibly compare to this level of cuteness.

It has always amazed me how capable young children are of freely expressing emotions that adults are so apt to keep to themselves. Even babies will offer their comfort items such as pacifiers and bottles to other children who are upset, as if to say, "I know how you feel; I've been there."

Still, even as I anxiously await my 15 month old son's first proclamation of love, I can't help but wonder: do kids really "get" love? Do they know what they are saying or are they simply mimicking behavior?

Yes, yes and...Yes!

Kids are expert cultural anthropologists; soaking in every bit of experience every minute of every day. They can sense tension and are astutely aware of happiness. I know this because both of my children are grumpy on my most stress-filled days and will laugh with me at my jokes when no one else will humor me... most of the time.

So when a caretaker affectionately whispers "I love you" and then shows it with hugs, understanding, presence, and sacrifice, it forms the child's very understanding of "love".

Go ahead; ask a child to define "love". I am willing to bet that what awaits you is a list a verbs that reflects how love has been shown to them:

"Love is hugging, love is listening, love is helping, love is friendship."

OR, in the words of a three-year-old: 

"Love is when we use our nice hands and we don't hit our little brothers. No. No."

How have you loved today?